How To Not Lose Your Damn Mind When You’re Not Working

You may have been laid off, just started retirement, transitioned to a stay-at-home parent role, or, if you’re like me, have recently immigrated to a new country and are not allowed to work until you’ve been granted a work permit (still waiting months later…). Regardless of the reason why, you’re not currently working. Sure it was nice the first couple of weeks or months to get some initial projects done, sleep in, lounge on the couch binge watching Netflix, but by this point, you may feel like you’re close to losing your damn mind.

For the past year I’ve struggled to keep myself sane during this long period of unemployment. I’ve also learned that not having purpose or personal goals is a major cause of depression. I don’t feel depressed, but I have definitely gone through periods of discontent, boredom, lonliness, and frustration over the past year. Here’s what I’ve been trying to do to keep myself busy in a healthy, productive way: [Read more…]

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Self Care for Post-Election Stress

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So yesterday I had to call on all-stop for myself. I woke up still in shock. I had a monster headache from the 2 margaritas I decided to drink after the 3 glasses of wine I’d consumed while the votes were coming in. My eyes were puffy from crying at the end of the night,  in the morning, and as I was reading stories of awful racial, religious, and homophobic attacks around the country. In case you’re reeling from the election too and looking for ways to take care of yourself, here’s what I did while processing everything: [Read more…]

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Self Care Best Practices: Get back to the basics.

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The term “self-care” is everywhere these days. We all are becoming more aware that if we spend too much time taking care of others, we lose ourselves. Whether it’s physical, mental, or emotional, a little bit of us can start to go each day… until we’re a shell of a person just going through the motions.  But there’s a reason flight attendants tell you to put your oxygen mask on first in the event of an emergency: You cannot help yourself or others if you are unconscious or dead… or wigging TF out.

Stress, depression, and illness are all on the rise and I feel like I know people who’ve been in dire straits for years on end. We need to take better care of ourselves and that means putting yourself first sometimes. The problem with most self-care activities though? It seems like ONE MORE THING to put on our to-do lists. And when you’re finished with your hot bath, your 60 minute massage, or that pedicure that you scheduled to make yourself feel more relaxed, all your other shit to do is STILL THERE, because it hasn’t been done since you were taking time for yourself. This is why people don’t do things that are good for them… My suggestion?

Get back to the basics before you do anything else. 

Address the biggest issues that cause you to be more stressed in the first place.

In no particular order: [Read more…]

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